

A blog filled with my love of weddings, my kids, my travels, my random and sometimes inane thoughts about life, and of course postings about my dogs. Check it out, and leave me some blog love in the comments sections.
One of the things I love to do is travel. And well, if I can throw in a seminar in there as a tax benefit, all the better. Add to that my mom and sister live in the ATL and I can borrow my sisters Black Mustang Convertible to drive around in...well, you get the picture.
During the quieter wedding months besides actually getting caught up on things like reading all those photo magazines I subscribe to, I'm always looking for seminars to help replenish the creative muse. And strangely enough, none of them have a thing to do with the big white dress. Though I love shooting weddings, when I want to revive my photo soul, I always turn to hard core photojournalism seminars. I'm especially always moved by War Photographers or journalists who are out in the field risking their lives to make photos. Documentary photographers, who dedicate their lives to telling a life story through photographs.
One of the reasons I wanted to go to this seminar was the work of an amazing photographer Todd Heisler who is with the Rocky Mountain News. I first saw his work a few years ago when I was in
And, of course, where there are photographers, there will be a little fun, too. Maybe an Appeltini or two, maybe a
Kathryn and Kevin
November 4, 2006
Wedding: Holy Family Parish,
Reception: The Ramada Inn,
If you are frequent reader of my blog, you might either be my mother, a potential client, or someone who is planning their wedding who has already hired me . That’s not to say that sometimes my former clients read my blog, they do. In general, I keep people on my email list for about 6-8 months after their wedding. At that point, I assume my inane ramblings about other people’s weddings have grown cold.
I had a really fun engagement session with Kathryn and Kevin in
For the record , the wedding was beautiful. Kathryn was radiant. Her big sister was in my estimation the PERFECT big sister, being supportive, saying all the right things, not swearing up a storm like she wanted to when the buttons of Kathryn’s Vera Wang kept popping off while buttoning up the dress, assuring Kathryn that it was all FINE, she looked gorgeous, the dress was gorgeous, everything was perfect as she sweated off all of her make up getting that dress buttoned up in the very very ugly church basement with the yellow walls.
Yellow walls. With florescent lighting. Now, part of my job is to overcome these obstacles. It really is. It’s not YOUR problem as a bride that your church where you are getting dressed for the most important day of your life has the worst ever EVER combination of colors in the world. Yellow walls. That makes people appear yellow in photos. Florescent lights reproduce GREEN in photographic images. Yellow and Green skin tones…wow , pretty. But just like your boss pays you to figure it out, it’s my job to walk into a situation like that and begin to strategize how I am going to overcome it. That’s what you pay me for.
And Kathryn, dear Kathryn, turned to me when we walked down into the basement and said “ If these getting ready shots have to be all have to be in black and white, you know I totally understand”
Which made me work my ass off to get some color shots. Okay, there are like three, but there are there! I love my brides.
Also a thrill for me for this wedding was getting to work again with, in my humble opinion, the best wedding videographer in the
So for all of you who have been waiting to see “The wedding of the century for the Chicago couple Fond du Lac style” I present to you the wedding slideshow of Kevin and Kathryn….who are truly one of the nicest couples you could meet.
Stephanie and Darwin
October 28, 2006
Ceremony: The Gardens, Nenno
Reception: Mayville Golf Club, Mayville
I get all sorts of weddings. Fancy ones, not so fancy ones, and pretty much everything in between. I’ve shot weddings at the Art Museum, the Hilton, the Union Grove Elks Club and outdoor BBQ’s in mom and pop’s back yard. What I love most about this is that my job is not static. Every wedding has it’s different feeling and if I had to pick three words to describe Stephanie and
Big. Damn. Fun.
It was, what I like to refer to as a “Big Fat Wisconsin Wedding”. Growing up in the area I think we all just figure weddings are the same everywhere. Ceremony. Cocktail hour. Polkas. Dancing and drinking beer until the wee hours. But no no no….if you travel to other areas of the country, that’s not at all the standard. I have a network of wedding photographer friends from around the country and I am always shocked by their wedding traditions. As they are by mine. They’ve never heard of the chicken dance, the reception ending at midnight and FREE BEER. One friend of mine saw some images of mine with the bouquet toss and didn’t understand why everyone was circling around the bride and groom…he’d never seen that in his area in the
So, if I had to pick the perfect “Big Fat Wisconsin Wedding” for 2006 it would be Stephanie and Darwin’s. Why? All of their best friends…all so blissfully happy for them. Friends from childhood, high school, family who loved them and beyond.
I grew up in a farm community very similar to Mayville, and maybe part of my love for this wedding was because of that. I loved seeing the important people in their lives just connecting to them and really being happy for them and their marriage. It was clear over and over that this was a union that made everyone happy.
And even though I left before the reception ended, I’d bet good cash money that Steph and Darwin did not leave early.
That’s just how we roll in
Dave and Kathleen
October 21, 2006
Ceremony: Christ King,
More pictures at:
Reception: The Historic Astor Hotel
So one fine day Dave calls me, maybe about 6-7 weeks before the wedding. He got my name from my good friends the Venturi’s, who have the best darn deli on 72nd and
7 years ago, Pete and Sue Venturi were my neighbors. We had a block party, and Pete and I had waaay too many beers and he told me how he had started this great new deli, but he was having trouble finding good help. And he was short on help for the next day for the Sunday “Ham and Rolls” crowd. I told him that I grew up in food service, knew my way around a deli counter, and I would help. When I actually showed up the next morning at 8:30 AM to help, he almost fell over. That cemented our friendship for life, I think. I worked for the Venturi’s very part time for about 3 years until my wedding schedule grew to the point that dragging myself into serving Ham and Rolls at 8:30 AM after shooting a 12 hour wedding just got to be too much. But if you ever make it there, try the chicken salad and the bow tie pasta, I promise it will make you weep.
So, anyway, Dave calls. He’s sure I’m booked, but Sue told him to call me and maybe I had a referral. I’m not booked. I was booked for that day, but the wedding had to be rescheduled to a different date. And as the story unfolded, I found out this:
Dave and Kathleen live 6 blocks from me.
The Astor, where they wanted their reception had a cancellation.
I had a cancellation.
Dave and Kathleen met at their high school reunion. Dave had worked on the reunion and had intended on going, but had doubts at the last minute about going. He was up north with his parents helping out and was having a nice time and thought maybe he’d just skip it , and his mom convinced him to go.
He went.
The rest, as they say, is history.
I mention all the time that one of my favorite parts of the day is the getting ready. I think it might be a chick thing, but I love observing and recording the ritual of the bride getting ready with her “girls”. The only problem with this was that I loved Kathleen’s bridesmaids so much that I wanted to chat instead of taking pictures. This, for me, is one of my greatest challenges as a wedding photographer. If I am chatting, I am not recording. (But for the record I want to let Carolyn know that I found a Bikrim hot yoga class and she is right, it rocks my world)
And after I shot the wedding I thought to myself I am sure that the reason I identified with Kathleen and her bridesmaids was because they were closer to my age than my average client.
But the next weekend I shot Stephanie’s wedding. And I dare say that I am probably closer in age to Steph’s mom than I am to her. Didn’t matter. I loved being around her and her bridesmaids just as much. In every funny nickname, in every funny moment, I was reminded of my college days.
Just live the day!
If you get married at the Eisner Museum of Advertising and Design you have to be a bit adventurous. It’s an extremely interesting venue here in
I love to see the original things that my clients come up with for their wedding to personalize them. Jeff and Briena have spent lots of time in
Congratulations Briena and Jeff!
Why I do this.
Despite how it must look, being a wedding photographer is not always that glamorous. I know, I know, I make it look like it is. But in reality, it is long days. Working Saturdays nearly all summer when everyone else is having fun. Pressure. Being nice all the time. Bridezillas (not that I have EVER had one) And sure, I’ve heard it all. Usually it is from well-meaning guests…
“It must be great to work only one day a week!”
(Ever notice what time my blog entries go out? It ain’t between the hours of 9-5)
“Wow, so you get to have a good meal every Saturday?”
(Yes, and it’s almost always chicken.. For me, it’s fuel, it’s not a night out)
“How much did that camera cost?”
(More than my first car. And I have three of them. You want a real freak out? Ask me how much some of my lenses cost)
“What’s a little girl like you doing with a lens like that?”
(FYI, have you looked at me? I’m not so little. And what kind of a freaking question is that?)
Don’t get me wrong, those of you who have hired me and have worked with me know how much I love my job. When I am shooting, my life is all good. It’s what I love to do. But once I get home it’s a job with deadlines and things to be done, and there are days when I am in editing hell, when I have album designs piling up, sales tax to pay, a bridal fair looming ahead of me, and it’s just like all of you feel when you are at work some days. But at the heart of it, I feel blessed that I have found my calling. Some days it’s harder than others to remember that. I get crabby. I look at all my work and find it all to be crap, I beat myself up for not shooting things at a different setting, why didn’t I frame this differently, what the hell were you thinking, yadda yadda yadda.
And then, I get an email like this:
“And just a note - the photos you took of my flower girl clutching her locket and showing her locket are unbelievable. In the locket are pictures of her mom (my cousin who passed away a few years ago (cancer -
tragic) and her dad. They are going to be especially treasured shots.
Thanks”
And this, my friends, is why I do this. This is why my job is so important to me. To capture a moment like this for a little girl and her family makes it all worth it. I had absolutely no idea why she was showing everyone that locket, but I knew it was important to her. These photos won’t win me any awards or bring me photographic acclaim. But they are at the heart of what I do this.
Thanks for the email, Mary. And thanks to all of you for allowing me the honor to photograph your weddings.
Mary and Phil
October 7, 2006
Wedding: St John the Baptist,
Reception: Lynch’s Landing,
When I first got the call from Mary about her wedding she left me a message about her wedding date. October 7, 2006. Now, everyone has to work on their birthday at some point in their life, it’s a fact of life. But this date happened to be my 40th, and I had pretty much determined that I was not going to take a wedding for that date. In fact, I probably turned away a good 10 inquiries for that date. But when I called Mary, she said “I’m kind of the anti-bride. I hate being in pictures, but I love good photography. I just want great pictures of my day, of people enjoying themselves and not in stiff poses. I want everyone to party and have fun and I want Phil and I to actually enjoy our wedding day. I’ve seen too many weddings where it seemed like my friends couldn’t even enjoy their day because they were constantly feeling like they HAD to do this and that, and I don’t want that”. And I thought: “This is the bride for me”. I often joke with my clients that if only they could be guests at their own wedding and not the bride and groom, they might get to enjoy it more since it goes by in such a blink after all that planning.
And as far as I could tell, the day went just like that. Everywhere I looked it people were laughing, talking, eating at their leisure at the yummy food stations, dancing and the entire atmosphere was casual elegance. The tent that Mary’s parents had set up on their property was nothing short of amazing, and the decorations and beautiful weather topped everything off. And every time I saw Mary and Phil at the reception, they looked relaxed and happy. Well, except for the one time Mary had to steal a lamb chop off the grill because she had been talking so much she didn’t have a chance to eat.
Congratulations!
Angela and Nate
September 16, 2006
Wedding and Reception: Wintergreen Resort, Spring Green
Wintergreen Resort is a beautiful Frank Lloyd Wright inspired building right in the heart of beautiful Spring Green
The drive to Spring Prairie and the remote drive to Wintergreen was gorgeous. I’ve been lucky enough to go to some parts of the state that I have never seen before this year to photograph some lovely weddings. When I met with Angela and Nate they told me the minute they saw this place, they knew that it was “it”. When I got there, I saw why. Rolling hills, just a touch of autumn color and a beautiful natural lodge.
One of my favorite parts of the wedding day is getting to be with the bridesmaids and the bride as they get ready. It’s so fun to see them all get ready, to hear the stories of the wedding preparations, and to see the bridesmaids who are already married reminisce about their wedding day. Angela’s dress was re-created with the lace from her mother’s wedding dress and her bridesmaid Kristin made her garter. Nate works for Nike, and check out the awesome patent leather groomsmen Nike Air Force One Shoes, custom made. JUST DO IT!
There were so many people from so many areas of the country for this celebration that we ran a bit late taking pictures of groups after the ceremony. It’s just something that happens, when you have every one you love in one place, you want pictures. But I could tell Angela and Nate were getting worried, they wanted to go to another location for more pictures, and we were rapidly losing light. So I wrapped things up, we went to the second location and had we actually been on time, the pictures that you’ll see in the slideshow at sunset would have never happened. That’s what you call fate…Kismet…Karma. Whatever you wanna call it, it was some sweet light.
When we got back, Angela’s Dad grabbed me and said “How much trouble am I in for making you late with all those family photos?” And I told him that he did me a huge favor. An hour earlier the photos would have been nice. Fine. But they would have been missing the lovely sunset glow.
Kismet. Karma. That’s the thing about weddings, if you just go with the flow, trust that it will all work out and live the day, it’s all good.
And sometimes, your Dad really does know best . Even if he doesn’t know it!
Elizabeth and Mike
September 9, 2006
Wedding:
Reception: Western Racquet Club,
I have a firm rule that I do not check the weather reports for the Saturday’s that I have weddings until Thursday. They never know what they are talking about; it doesn’t help to get riled up on Monday for something that could drastically change. Then when I check on Thursday, if things don’t look so good I just rely on my second best defense: Denial. According to the weather gurus it was supposed to rain all day on
And it never did rain! Congratulations Elizabeth and Mike!
Check out their wedding slideshow to see photos from their wedding day!
Kathryn and Kevin’s engagement session
Shooting this engagement session was a blast. A special thanks to my buddy
The windy city lived up to it’s name, and when we started bright sun and wind made the photographic conditions a little challenging. But as the evening progressed on, we had some awesome weather and Dennis and I were teaching Kathryn and Kevin that it was all about the “tasty light” that made photographs great. Kevin caught on right away and when we rounded a corner at Navy Pier and saw the pastel light hitting the skyline Kevin said “That’s tasty light, right?” It sure was!
The highlight of the photo session was at the end when Kevin spied the flying swings and thought it would be great to get some photos on it. Did I mention that I don’t do rides? Like, at all? Ever? My kids have tried in vain to get me to go on rides with them. I always beg out, because, well, I’m a puker. But to get the shot, I was willing to do it. Apparently that’s the magic bullet for me. I’m happy to report I did not lose it, and we got some great stuff. Be sure to watch the slideshow so you can see my self portrait on the swings at the end. Trust me, it’s worth it.
Vana and Aaron
August 26, 2006
Round Lake,
Completing my tour of the great north woods was Vana and Aarons ceremony on a lovely lake in
Vana is one of those people who would look good in a gunny sack (does anyone say that anymore?) but when she put that dress on, WOW. It was a gown that suited her perfectly. I couldn’t put my finger on who she reminds me of until I watched the slideshow a few times and realized she looks a lot like a young Grace Kelly. The affection and love between her and Aaron was hard to miss, and the people who attended the wedding mirrored it right back at them.
No wedding goes off perfectly without a hitch, but I’d say they got pretty close. A gorgeous day, a gorgeous location, a gorgeous bride, and the world’s largest musky. Doesn’t get much better than that.
Congratulations!
P.S. When in
Hey Kim - Just wanted to thank you again for taking the time to meet with me yesterday and of course the fudge!!! The TSA agent at the airport was looking to confiscate it after the x-ray machine detected a suspicious looking object in my bag...nope, not the fudge, but I guess 600+ wedding photos look rather odd via x-ray and requires a physical examination of one's bags - during which I had about 3 agents swarm over in my direction and upon pulling my proofs out of my bag say..., "Hey that's Port Washington - I know Port Washington, I live in Grafton"," What beautiful pictures", "Congratulations"....I guess by that time I looked rather harmless and I could take my fudge and pictures and be on my way :-)
I was also really proud of myself too, I made it all the way home with some to share with Brian, though he still doesn't believe me that you told me I didn't have to share.
Alison and Dave
August 19, 2006
Bayfield
Wedding: The shores of
Reception: Bayfield Inn
When you travel 7 hours to shoot a wedding on the beach and an outdoor ceremony you really REALLY hope the weather is good. It wasn’t only good, it was spectacular. Perfect puffy clouds and streaming sun for the wedding, mild August temperatures for the fun boat ride around Lake Superior, and a picture perfect
Guests came from all over to attend Alison and Dave’s wedding, and they were all charmed by the city of
And LOTS of kids at this wedding! Alison really made sure this wedding was fun for them and her daughter Maia by having “kids hors dourves” PB&J sandwiches, chicken strips, pudding, sloppy joes! I did notice a few of the adults “sneaking” the kids food.
It was a great wedding and just what Alison and Dave wanted…close friends and family and their familes all having a great time in a beautiful setting. Congratulations!
Chasing the Big White Dress in the Great White North and other weirdness
“Chasing the big white dress” comes from when my oldest son told someone that’s what I did for a living when he was 5. It was career day at school and I walked in prepared to talk to kindergarteners about photography in the most basic terms. Outside the door, each child had written what their parents did for a living. Next to my name my son wrote “My mom chases the big white dress for the Home Depot”. At that time, I worked for a studio called “Portrait Depot” and shot weddings for them. How he came up with the big white dress theory, I have no idea. But it has become my standard, and all my friends and family have adopted it.
Kim’s friend: “Whatcha doing on Saturday?”
Kim: “Whatcha think I am doing, it’s June.”
Kim’s friend: “Chasing the big white dress”
Kim” “Duh”
Kim’s Stepmother: “Honey, we are thinking of having a cook out on Saturday. Can you and the boys come?”
Kim” “Uh, it’s Saturday. You know, SATURDAY, in the summer. If it were February, maybe”
Kim’s Stepmother “Ohhhhh. Right. Big white dress”
Kim: “Duh”
So in that spirit, I am going to be out of the studio from tomorrow, August 18 where I will travel to Bayfield
Also, I am so PSYCHED because I get to add to my collection of photos in front the weird landmarks in Wisconsin…oooh, that’s gonna be a good blog addition for the slow months. You cannot believe how many odd Plexiglas faux animal replicas there are in
So, I will be OUT of the studio August 18-28th. They haven’t heard much of that newfangled thing called CELL SERVICE or the INTERNET up in them thair parts. I’ll do my best to check in, but if I am MIA it’s because I can’t get a signal. Likely I’ll be totally on a fudge high, anyway.
Patrick and Becky
August 12, 2006
Wedding: St Albert the Great, Sun Prairie
Reception:
Let’s just say I knew this was going to be a wild wedding when one of Becky’s bridesmaids’ looked at her in her gown and said to her: “Yeah Beck. You’re bringing Sexy Back”. Then there was the moment when Patrick realized 30 minutes before the ceremony that the rings were at the hotel room…20 minutes away. At first he said some things that I am pretty sure are not allowed in a Catholic Church, but then they handled it just like Becky and Patrick handle things…with humor, a shrug of the shoulders and the optimistic attitude that it would all work out. And it did. The rings were there for the ceremony, I didn’t ask how.
The reception. Here is my true confession. I know all of you go to a few weddings a year, tops. All that fun, kinda retro music is great for getting people out on the dance floor. Stuff you might LOVE I am so desensitized to that I barely hear the music since I hear it all the time, I just react to how people are dancing. So then chicken dance comes on and WHOOOO-HOOOOOOO…the chicken dance!!!! SO. MUCH. FUN….right? Now just imagine you are a wedding photographer. And 35 out of 52 Saturdays of your life every year you get to hear the chicken dance. Suddenly not so charming, is it? This is the one time I can confess…when the UW Marching Band comes in surprising all the guests and plays the chicken dance and 375 people go WILD and start doing it, it’s BIG FUN. Thanks to Patrick and Becky, I’ve gotten over my cynicism about the chicken dance.
Now I just have to work on liking “We Are Family” again. Who’s gonna help me out with that one?!!
Lori and Chris
August 5, 2006
Wedding:
Outdoor Photos:
Reception: Country Springs, Pewaukee
Who knew people who majored in math could be so fun?! I’d met Lori and Chris a few times and found them to be really sweet and charming and just a really NICE couple. What I did not count on was their razor sharp wit underneath all that NICE-ness. A few times during the wedding reception I caught myself cracking up because of all of the unexpected funny moments.
I loved this idea…instead of kissing when the guests “dinged” the glasses, Lori and Chris had on each table a series of obscure questions about themselves. Things that were not easily guessed like “What gift from Lori’s mom is on top of the toilet in the bathroom?” And each table had different questions. I have to say, I think Lori and Chris ended up kissing MORE than the norm, though . The guests were RABID to find out the answers and they traveled from table to table to ask if anyone knew the answer to their questions.
They also had M&M’s on the table and would kiss when people brought up 5 orange M&M’s. There was a whole lotta kissing going on during dinner .
Before the wedding started, Lori found herself suddenly very nervous, a little light-headed and nauseous from the excitement. So we moved her into a cooler room, and within a few minutes she was okay. When I asked her if she was doing alright before her brother walked her down the aisle she said “I’m much better. I found that if you just burp when you get nervous, it really helps. And you can put that on your blog!”
Just a little tip from someone who’s been there to any of my upcoming clients Burp. I had not idea this blog thing would turn into such a wealth of wedding information!
Congratulations!!
Monica and Jason
July 22, 2006
Wedding:
Reception: Elm Grove Women’s Club
Ever hear the theory of six degrees of separation? See if you can follow this. My friend Tracey nannies for my friend Angie. Monica and Angie are friends. Tracey’s sister Julie worked with Jason, and knew he was single and told Angie she had someone perfect for Monica. So Angie and Julie introduced Monica and Jason. And the rest, as they say, is history. So Angie called me a few months ago and said “I know there’s NO chance you’re open on July 22, my friend Monica is getting married.” But I was. Karma, fate? When things like that happen you know there’s a reason for everything.
Because they are just so cute, I had to include a few of their engagement photos in the slideshow. We took the photos at the place where they met and took their first walk together. And one year later to the day, they married.
Congratulations!
Adrienne and Chris
July 15, 2006
Wedding: Gesu Parish, Marquette University
Reception: Historic Pfister Hotel
This is probably the third wedding I have photographed for what I affectionately refer to as “Marquette People”. And without exception, every single one of those weddings have been great. Happy people. Fun wedding parties. And most of all, just a great spirit of FUN. Adrienne and Chris didn’t let me down. Even though it was HOT. And not just, oh, a little warm, but HOT HOT. But that didn’t deter them at all.
As I was editing this wedding, I kept laughing. Because in about 90% of the pictures, Adrienne is laughing. I couldn’t believe it, there are maybe 5 pictures from the wedding where she is not laughing or smiling. You’d be laughing and smiling too if you married a great guy like Chris. When they were planning the wedding at the Pfister Adrienne wanted the pretty purple chair covers to complete her wedding dream, but the practical side of her won out and she decided that was too big of an added expense. So as a surprise to Adrienne, he contacted the Pfister and got her the chair covers without her knowing it. I think she just married the man of her dreams.